I never read the book. It seems as if everyone I knew was reading it and talking about it. I just had no desire to read this book, and actually made a pact with myself, I would not read it. It is not because of the sex in the book, I am no prude, and believe in all types of fun in a marriage bed, so that was not a problem. If bondage is your thing, and both partners agree, then have at it! I believe God made sex FUN for a reason, it should bond a married couple. It should be exciting, it should be adventurous because during sex we are building love and trust. We should be able to do and say whatever we want to our spouse. God LOVES marriage, and tells us to celebrate it. He even gave a book of the bible up for a guide to good married sex, Song of Solomon. Go read it, if you read it in the New Living Translation, it is pretty plane to read, sex is fun and God wants that for us!
No, none of those reasons are not why I chose not to read it, and certainly will not go see the movie.
The reason is easy. I have said before that if you look into your marriage, and have discontent, the evil one tries very hard to exploit that. He uses those things to bring barriers and weakness to what God has deemed right and Good.
No what I fear would happen is that I (or any woman) would read of these unbelievable sexual exploits of these two beautiful people and think to myself "well why doesn't Handsome do those things, or say those things", and right there, you have opened the door to the devil getting in your head. Or maybe you read that and decide that you want to try these things, again in marriage that is not a problem. But what if your partner does not want to do something, or is uncomfortable doing something you read in a book or saw in a movie? Could that open the door to "what if"?
I know for a fact, that if you open that door, and you live your life in a way pleasing to God, that the devil will try so hard to corrupt what God made beautiful. So instead of looking at our marriage bed with contentment, we are suddenly saying "what if". I know first hand that what if are a calling card for the devil to come in and play.
Maybe you are not a Christian and you are reading this because of my history of the affair in my marriage, and you have been there. Let me tell you this is not so different for you. If we take God out of it , what if you read that book, and want those things, but your spouse is not up for it. Would you, in time, start thinking well I bet so and so would be "adventurous", or I bet her husband would do that for her. This is discontentment, and it will breed on itself if you are not careful. Our marriage beds are sacred, and what goes on in them is as well. As couples we need to TALK out LOUD about our sex lives. If you want to try things, talk to your spouse, and LISTEN to your spouse. If you want to read a book that helps read Sheet Music, wonderful book about a healthy, satisfying sexual marriage.
I happen to have a very good imagination, I don't need no stinking book lol~
Peace and Blessings!
LTW
