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Monday, September 29, 2014

Going to Kentucky, with an ache in my heart(who can name the song)

Ok folks, handsome and I are going to KY this weekend to help our friend Phelan.  I am trusting God will provide the material in some way, because it's Him prodding me Togo.
Many of you have had hard times. Think about living in a house that is just outside walls. Think about how cold last year was.
I am asking anyone wbo reads, to pray for us to succeed, God pushed me on this adventure, I know He will provide.  But please pray we can help them not be cold.
Peace and blessings
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And yes I know it California in the song, work with me lol

Thursday, September 25, 2014

PLEASE A dear homesteading friend needs out help!!!

If any of you read   http://a-homesteading-neophyte.blogspot.com/ then you know she has had a very rough year.
There is now a go fund me account, you can find it on Framboise Manor- Kymber and Jamby blog.  My heart is truly breaking for this sweet girl.  They have had set back after set back.  When they moved east it was supposed to be easier, and they are having such a hard time.
I don't normally ask for money or things, but I am PLEADING WITH YOU ALL, if you have $1 or $5 or $10 or $100, could you go to the go fund me site and pledge for her
http://www.gofundme.com/e8g26c

even after meeting her goal, could we all send a few bucks, because they need walls, they need insulation, they need running water.
So I am asking that you prayerfully consider giving to her cause.  I have even sent care package boxes with things to help.
They aer a wonderful family, husband and three great kids.
Please go help her.
Remember we are to help the downtrodden.
Peace and Blessing to you all
LTW

Monday, September 15, 2014

One of my "Questions for God"

I know when I meet God in Heaven, there will be no questions, because we will all be praising His great Name, but if I could ask a question, this is one that I would definitely ask Him.
"Why God in your great and mighty wisdom make man and woman's libido sooooo different in our later years"?

I know I probably lost many of you.  That is ok.  Praise God if this is not a problem in your life.  But I know in speaking with many women my age, it seems that they are having the same issue.
This also impacts many who are going thru reconciliation at that time in their lives.  There are many ways that this impacts people, but if you are feeling even slightly insecure in your relationship, this certainly does not help.

It is a fact that most men seem to slow down in their later years, and it seems like it starts in the fifties for men.  There are many reasons, physical, mental, stress, or your body because of the aging process is not manufacturing testosterone like it once did.

Now women on the other hand ( and remember this is in my informal research lol) before they hit menopause seem to go thru a time when they feel like a teen aged boy.  This seems to be my problem, and yes, it is a problem.  You would think well what is wrong with that?  Men would say woo hoo, isn't he a lucky guy? Well no he is not a lucky guy.  He is stressed, and he is tired, and he has more work around the house that either of us knows what to do about it.  I asked Handsome about this, his answer was, "I never even think about it anymore" ouch.  "It has nothing to do with you" huh?, then the best one, "The more stress you put on me the worse it gets"  Now please don't get me wrong, I totally understand that men slow down as they age, and that things change.  I am ready willing and able to deal with all those changes, I even spelled it out!  So I try not to push, or make any pressure on him in that area.

BUT, I on the other hand am a woman who is slowly regaining her footing after a terrible period in our lives.  I am trying to get to the place that I was BEFORE, ( you all know the before word, especially if you have or are going thru an emotional affair.)
Part of my healing is him showing me and reassuring me that he does indeed love me, that he is indeed where he wants to be, not where he should be. I want, like any woman to be desired and loved.

He says it is not me.  He is not disappointed in what he sees, that it has nothing to do with me.  But it does have a whole lot to do with me, and it is hard to make him see that.
 It is just another question that I would like to ask God when I get there, and let me tell you , I have a bunch!
I hope all are well and being blessed.
Peace and Blessings. LTW

Monday, September 8, 2014

This is a big problem

I am seeing a trend in women my age.  In some ways, it validates my feelings, in other ways, it frightens me.
When our nest empties ( or almost empties) we realize that for the first time in a long time our marriage is now only about us.  Our home is about us.  What we do for entertainment is about us. Whatever we do now, is about us.  For more years than I can count, we focused on our children.  We were a united front with our children in common.  But now, what do we do.
I have a dear friend, who is dealing with this.  My heart aches for her, she was crying that her and her husband could be room mates.  I believe I have said that before.
Now things between Handsome and I are going really well.  with some counseling we saw where some changes needed to be made, and how our focus needs to change.  Slowly but surely we are turning it around.  Except for certain areas, which are probably health related, we still have issues there.  I have just had to accept it is not because of me, but a health related issue that if it bothers him enough he will fix.  I have had to accept that , and realize that yes I am still attractive, and still have much to offer, if you understand my meaning.
But Handsome and I both realized that we needed to also find outside interests, things we could do together, and things we could do alone, or with friends. That has been a blessing.  We both look forward to doing our own hobbies ( for me pottery, for him slot car racing and bowling.), and we both love planning our events together as well.  For so long we just sat around watching tv and growing old. I am not old, and my marriage was going to improve, I was not going to spend my life in a stagnant marriage.  So we intentionally worked on it.
I am praying for my dear friend, I asked her to pottery with me.  I also told her the best thing we did was get counseling that helped us communicate better..we forgot how somewhere along the bottle, diaper, school, soccer, boy scouts time of our life how to talk with each other, rather than at each other.  We had to intentionally feed our marriage.  It is taking time, but I am seeing improvements.  I am trying to be patient, and God is honoring that in my life, things are good.
I think this is epidemic among empty nesters, I think we need to speak out, say it is nothing to be embarrassed about, but it needs to be talked about, it needs to be front and center.  We sometimes need to fight for what we want in our lives, but if it is something you know will benifit you as well as your spouse, then go for it.
I am praying for all you women and men in this situation.
Peace and blessings
LTW